Updated: Dec 13, 2020
How often do you let yourself open up?
Are you one of those people who take a while to crack?
Or do you wear your ‘heart on your sleeve’ as they say?
Either are ok.
Learning to deal with emotions is a journey we all embark on throughout our lifetime.
Some learn better than others.
With the right tools and people around you, allowing emotion to rise to your surface can be life changing.
Think back to a point in your life where you found yourself going through something unbelievably tough. Where you felt raw, exposed and vulnerable (or something similar).
How did you deal with those emotions?
Did you suppress?
Did you deal?
Did you ignore it?
Getting into the habit of not addressing your emotion can easily be done. No matter what gender you are. We feel like we have to be ok a lot of the time. Some feel that showing emotion is weak or they don’t know how to deal with them.
Truth is, you don’t have to know how to deal with them!
Simply by sitting and listening to how you feel and what you feel is good enough.
Allowing yourself to feel all that needs to be felt and not punishing yourself for feeling it.
Rawness and vulnerability can bring fear, uncertainty and the unknown. But what I am trying to emphasise is how often do you let yourself feel vulnerable with it?
We are programmed to move on as quickly as possible, because it’s not always a nice feeling.
Which it’s not.
But have you ever stopped to think about how allowing yourself to feel it, could be part of the healing process and part of you moving through it, to come out the other side?
By sitting with it you shift it.
By shifting it you move it.
By moving it you can heal it.
It’s a process. Sometimes a long one, sometimes a short one.
I shifted some emotion the other day that I thought wasn’t ready to come up yet.
I took myself out and listened to a powerful meditation by Sarah Blondin (who I highly recommend)
I sat and cried and cried. I tried not to stop myself from crying and just allowed myself to let it out by holding space for my body and my tears. It was powerful.
Now I’m not saying that this is how it works, we all express differently.
Listen to yourself intuitively and maybe ask yourself 'what do I need in order to open up?'
I’ve watched people in my life severely suppress vulnerability and emotion for years. It’s hard to watch someone not know how to deal with their emotions. There are so many detrimental outcomes from suppression. Physically and mentally.
So if you are going through something, anything, good or bad, then allow allow allow allow allow yourself to feel it.
Sit with it,
Listen to it,
Reach out for it,
Dance with it,
Move with it,
Walk with it,
Write with it.
There is no right or wrong way.